Tuesday, September 6, 2011

How To Handle Bullying In Your Child's Life

By Waldemar Tanner


When you were in school, you may have been bullied, which is something that can have a profoundly negative effect on your life. The first thing you can do to help your kids if they are being bullied is to find out about it and then take action. This is not about being overprotective, but simply applying yourself in a way that is helpful for your children. This article will provide you with helpful strategies when it comes to dealing with bullying in your child's life.

Sometimes when parents learn that their child is being bullied, their first reaction is to want to talk to the parents of the bully. This may seem like the responsible thing to do, it is not the wisest. It is a pretty good bet that the home life of a bully was highly influential to their disposition. The upbringing of a bully is not necessarily the reason for their lack of compassion, but it could be a huge factor. Often times, a parent will stand beside their child in any situation. With this conclusion, think twice before considering this an option. A person at the school would be the logical choice to contact. The school can then get in touch with the parents of the kid causing the trouble.

One of the best ways to avoid bullying is to behave in a confident manner. Some kids can prevent bullying, even if the other kid is a lot bigger, by showing confidence, something that a bully does not like to see. This is not about telling your child to fight a bully, but telling them to use strategies such as their words and saying something like "get out of here". Children that are taught to speak loudly in such scenarios can feel more confident that they will receive the help of a nearby adult that will hear what is going on. Your kids will look less approachable if they are confident, and confidence is something that bullies do not like to see in the person they are trying to assault.

A strategy that is often utilized is to be confident when the bully is in your presence. If your child is being bullied by someone much bigger than them, tell them to be confident in their mannerisms when confronted. Teach your child to tell bullies to "go away!" which will usually help scare them off and they may not come back again. Talking in a loud voice can help alert others that are nearby, and may also make the other person less assertive. Bullies usually target kids who are submissive, so if your kids can learn to behave confidently, even if they don't always feel this way, can help prevent them from being victims.

Kids are not always so forthcoming when it comes to discussing bullying with their parents. They may possibly feel ashamed, or the bully could have told them to not say anything. For this reason you should look out for warning signs that there's a problem. If your child often wants to avoid school because of a physical ailment, and it's one that's hard to verify such as a stomachache or headache, one possibility is that he or she is trying to avoid school for another reason. Should you ask your child about their day at school then they'll probably be more likely to open up to you if there is an issue. You can't, however, always count on them telling you without any prompting. Even though bullying is a big problem, you should not have to cope with it when it happens to your child. It has been proven with research that bullying can have long term effects on the adult years of your child's life. Taking the right measures must be done if you see any signs that your child is a bully, or is the victim of bullying.




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